It’s all over the news on Saturday morning! Selina Jen announced the news on Facebook at 11pm on Friday (04/03/2016), shortly followed by her soon-to-be ex-husband, Richard Chang at 11.01pm on Facebook, which went viral.
Let’s see what each of them wrote.
It seems that she is blaming on herself.
Let’s see what her husband wrote.
So now he claimed that he should shoulder a bigger responsibilitiy for the divorce.
They are both using the same photo for the announcement.
According to The Straits Times: “The announcement came as a surprise because Mr Chang has been shown as Selina’s pillar of support in media reports, particularly after a near-death experience for Selina.
In October 2010, while filming the television drama I Have A Date With Spring, Selina was badly hurt in an accident involving explosives which left her with burns – some as severe as third-degree on her back, limbs and waist – around 50 per cent of her body.
Mr Chang even published a book documenting her long road to recovery.
In April last year, Jen’s S.H.E bandmate Ella Chen was quoted saying the couple was trying for a baby.
That same year, Mr Chang was photographed by Taiwanese paparazzi hanging out at a KTV lounge with a young woman. It sparked off rumours that the couple’s marriage was on the rocks.”
Many must have thought that it’s the husband’s fault. The 43 years old lawyer might have an affair. Well, he’s rich and looks young. Why not?
There is forum discussion that Richard married Selina in 2011 due to pressure, a year after her accident. I felt otherwise. He must have really loved her at that time.
But it’s only 5 years. What they mentioned was that the love died off. That’s why sometimes I thought it’s better to have children. As you watch them grow, there’s new things everyday. If not, love may really die off.
However, Marriage is about acceptance.
A lot of times, the things you like about the person in the start of the relationship are also the things you dislike at the end of it.
But, Marriage is to compromise. Think of why you marry him in the first place. Same for a relationship. Think of why you have chosen him in the first place.
Value and treasure what he can give you, instead of thinking what he doesn’t have.
Love will ultimately evolve into friendship and kinship. But isn’t that better? To have a best friend who understands you and loves you more than a kin.
I don’t believe in forever love. Well, not entirely true. Ok. Let me put it in this way. I don’t believe that the passionate love for the man or woman that gave you butterflies in your tummy or made your heart raced very fast will be forever. This love will evolve into a different kind of love. A love that is protective, caring and sharing.
You love your partner in a way that you want to protect him and care for him. You worry if he has his meal, if he has taken his medicine, if he has an umbrella when it is raining. You think of him at work (if he’s going home late for dinner). You call or text him (not to say you’ll miss him even if you really do without you knowing) to ask if he has bought breakfast for the family or if he’s working OT. You ask him out for a movie (to watch it together with the children). You plan for holidays with him (to a kids friendly place with the children).
Actually, you love him without you knowing.
Men and women are the same. They want to be loved. As humans, we think love as a feeling. We want to feel that we are being loved. But love is not just a feeling.
To me, I always think that being affectionate is being loved. I want to hear “I love you”. I want to be kissed good night. I want to be embraced to sleep. I want to be hugged when I’m home. That’s why we love dramas. The kind of romantic love does not exist in reality.
My children did these. Alyssa tells me “I love you” and she kisses me good night. Both my children hug me when I’m home. Asher loves to embrace me from my back. But I don’t have butterflies in my tummy. Haha.
What I’m trying to say that this kind of love has been replaced by a bigger or a different kind of love.
I know he loves me when…
He lets me sleep in on weekends
He buys me breakfast everyday
He plays with the children
He makes milk for the children
He showers the children
He feeds the children medicine when they’re sick
He gives me advices when I grumble
He asks me to sleep early
He accompanys me for my medical visits
Love may not be forever. Marriage, on the other hand, is something you can work on to last till death does you both apart. It’s hard work. It’s also mutual understanding. Value and treasure what you have. Appreciate your spouse.